There’s something I do and it is kind of lowkey. It is stalking my exes via social networks, because in this age of social media, it is quite easy to keep up to date with an ex, well as long as the so-called ex has an online presence.
I know some of you are probably wondering why would I stalk my ex? Many people always come out of their relationships with a lot of negativity, but I always try to end my relationships on good terms. I’m not saying I’m buddies with my exes, but we are civil towards each other, we can still hang out in public spaces if we somehow are in the same location together, and wish each other happy birthday, and on special holidays pass on greetings, which can lead to small talk. The end.
I’m only human, and my exes once upon a time were very important people in my life. So sometimes I just want to check how they are doing? or I’m just plain old bored. It’s the same as stalking old people, you were once friends with and fell out with or stopped talking to for one reason or the other. It doesn’t mean I haven’t moved on.
It’s mainly to see the differences that have occurred in their lives since it was called quits. My point is there are many different reasons why someone would stalk an ex, and no one should feel bad or guilty for doing so.
Anyway, it’s quite easy for me to stalk my exes. Even the ones I don’t follow or have on any social networking platform because majority of their accounts are open to the public or I never removed them (some I did, out of pettiness). It’s really a bummer though when I want to stalk via Twitter or Instagram and I find out the account is private.
FaceBook is a good stalking ground, especially if they are active and you added each other. But I don’t really use FaceBook aside for promoting my blogs page, so my recent exes are rarely ever my friends on there, such a sadting.
If you do stalk your ex, ensure that it isn’t bringing or stirring up negative and toxic feelings in you. Make sure it’s not causing you emotional turmoil because if it is, you need to block and delete your ex from your life because you’re not helping yourself move on.
Do you sometimes find yourself going through your Ex’s social network platform? Why are you there? What are your feelings on this topic? Really would love your own opinion.